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Jessica Inchiostro Watches From Above

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December 13, 1979 - November 6, 2008

Approximately 2,000 friends and family attended Jessica Inchiostro's viewing and services over this past weekend, some waiting as long as 2 hours to offer their condolences...and oh so many tears. Baue Funeral Home officials shared, it may have been the largest funeral ever with their firm. All this attention was inspired by a brave young wife and mother who was defined by her husband as "a little piece of heaven, right here on earth." 
    It is with great sadness that we report on the passing of Jessica Aufner Inchiostro, the 28-year old wife and mother who has warmed the hearts of hundreds of thousands of friends and supporters all around the world. Jessica passed away peacefully on Thursday, November 6, 2008, while surrounded by her husband, Joe, three-year old son, Aiden, mother, Cyndi Aufner and sister, Kensey and extended family and close friends. 

  Jessica was born in Cheyenne, Wyoming and raised in the O’Fallon area. Jessica graduated from Fort Zumwalt North High School in 1998, and later graduated from Lindenwood University with a Bachelors Degree in Graphic Arts Design/English.  In 2005, Jessica married her high school sweetheart, Joe Inchiostro and subsequently gave birth to her son, Aiden.

   The happy family’s lives were turned upside down when Jessica was diagnosed with ALL (T-cell) on June 1, 2006. Jessica and Joe fought a brave battle against the cancer and still lived life to the fullest, in spite of many hospitalizations, procedures and treatments. Throughout the two year battle, Jessica and Joe shared their love and the experience with thousands of friends and supporters via the internet site  Over 158,000+ messages of faith, hope and love from all over the world were shared with the dynamic couple through the site. Jessica also inspired over 100 people to be tested and become part of the bone marrow registry in St. Louis. 


  Joe Inchiostro posted on the site Friday morning – informing all who love Jessica of her death. In part, his post reads:

  “We have no regrets. We met this fate on our own terms and took control of the uncontrollable. Even though my heart is broken I have solace in the fact that she is now at peace. No one earned it more than she did.

  Thank you with all that I am for supporting us and being a part of our struggle. It has made a horrible situation that much less horrible and has given me a new found sense of how good people really are and how much we can accomplish when we come together. Jessica’s spirit lives on in the bonds of friendship we have forged. It is now up to us to continue her work.”

  Please remember Jessica, her family and many, many friends in your prayers at this difficult time.

  Jessica Inchiostro was buried in the Inchiostro

Family Cemetary in Danville, Missouri.


We are honored to share our memories of Jessica as we recognize that her spirit lives on in all who were near and dear to her! Christmas 2008 - Joe and Jessica's entire family shared in the Christmas Spirit, in spite of their great loss. After all, Jessica would want that! 


September 2009 Update: Aiden attends pre-school in a loving community that works closely with Joe and the family in aiding with Aiden's adjustment. Jessica would be proud of her 'men' and how they have carried forward in life. Both Joe and Aiden visit the farm often.


November Update: It's hard to believe that we are already approaching the one-year anniversary of Jessica's death. Not one day goes by, or not one conversation is shared with her mother where our deep sense of loss isn't discussed. Still, life went on, and continues to do so. Joe, Cyndi, Kensey and all other family members have remodeled little Aiden and Makena's worlds to welcome the return of happiness, in spite of it all. They have done a marvelous job. It's obvious that Jessica is now their guardian angel.

The following are pictures that the family has shared with us, to share you all of you. Aiden and Makena were 'shining stars' in the recent wedding of friends, Craig and Stephanie Struckmann. Here are some adorable pictures:


Christmas 2009

Santa Visit...


On Monday, December 7, 2009, Cyndi and I visited Jessica's gravesite. Cyndi recently found out that Jessica's monument had been placed and was anxious to see the final 'work of art' created by Joe. True to his nature, Joe outdid himself with the first-class ingenuity and personal touch he poured into the creation of the monument.

Perhaps I'm sharing too much, but Joe should know that he touched Jessica's Mom very deeply with the special emphasis he placed on others special memories of Jessica, blended in with his own. You are a great man, Joe Inchiostro. The perfect prince for the princess, Jessica.